Writing today had not been on my agenda, until while scanning some of the reader comments from yesterday, I noticed that one was from an unfamiliar person.
Being of a curious nature, I went to his site, and on the right side, was a list of the Blogs that he followed.
I saw a name that intrigued me and clicked on it.
As the page appeared, the very first image that came up, delivered an instant sickening memory, one that will burn in my mind, in my heart forever.
I knew that I would indeed be writing today.
Neither the horrific image, nor the page, will be shown here, if you look around, it is out there.
It is a picture of two young girls in India who, they say, were gang raped and then hung.
Please read that sentence again, will you?
Then try for one moment to remember what year it is, this is 2014.
How is it possible, conceivable, that this kind of abhorrence is still being inflicted on females anywhere?
Yet, it most assuredly is, and in many places apparently.
The word rape is personal to me, a best friend, the best friend of my then young son and two close relatives, were all raped.
Men for the most part, can never truly appreciate the fear that is associated with this evil word.
Unless of course they become incarcerated, then …………
But for us, for women, this is a word that we know all too well.
Some better than others.
Rape, whether we admit it or not, is always in the back of our minds.
Will it happen to me?
For women, the world around us has now become so violent, that simply going to the grocery store, can put any one of us at great risk of becoming the victim of a violent act.
Where we live near Orlando, the violent acts against women and children, have now become an ugly, daily occurrence on our local News.
Women and young girls are beaten, raped, car jacked and murdered here on a regular, horrifying basis.
It seems that we/they are not safe anywhere, anymore, not even at home.
All of this brutality, this violence against women, is happening in a State that still has not passed the ERA, like several other mostly, Southern States.
Does this have any bearing on the outrageous brutality towards women here, maybe.
Although not familiar with the statistics in other states at this time, it has been said repeatedly on our news here, that Florida leads the Nation in violence against women, children and animals.
Sounds like we have a BIG problem here doesn’t it?
But, it is not just here, not just in Florida, not just in America, it is GLOBAL.
The very long list of types of violent acts against women is simply staggering.
And, it has been going on since the beginning of time.
In India, wives died in their husband’s funeral pyres in a practice known as sati.
Young girls are still suffering right now with female genital mutilation.
A shock today was learning that Ethiopia has the highest incidence of violence against women.
But when you consider the absolute, abject poverty there, is it really so surprising after all?
It appears that violence against others is much more prevalent where there is great poverty.
This makes perfect sense in a way.
If a person, assuming the perpetrator of the violent act is a male, is out of work, perhaps for a very long time, desperate and suffering from extreme low self-esteem, any one could then potentially become the target of a violent act.
A wife, a child, a pet could become the victim of violent, out of control, rage.
Regardless of the triggering point, this is absolutely not acceptable behavior under any conditions.
But, back to the point.
We on this Planet have a very serious problem with violence against women.
America has just finally passed, for all of the good it has apparently done, the VAW ACT.
Yet every single day, here and all across this country and the world, women and children become victims, another statistic, while waiting for this VAW ACT, the judicial system that continues to fail them and yes all of us too, to save their lives.
Women go to court trying to get legal protection, in the form of a piece of useless paper, called a restraining order, and are murdered anyway.
So, what is the solution?
Well, if we wait for a legal solution, I truly don’t believe that it can or will, ever be the answer.
The answer I believe, is within ourselves.
We must change our basic nature, we must get to the roots of all humans and their eons old, errant thinking.
We must all, each and every one of us, be taught from birth, from our Mother’s, yes and most importantly from our Father’s knee, that each of us is valuable, each of us is worthy of being loved and each of us is important.
Once we as a species, begin to feel good, or at least not bad, about who and what we are, only then can we truly accept and love each other and stop the violence against women.
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