Picture credit: World Health Organization
Writing today had not been on my agenda, until while scanning some of the reader comments from yesterday, I noticed that one was from an unfamiliar person.
Being of a curious nature, I went to his site, and on the right side, was a list of the Blogs that he followed.
I saw a name that intrigued me and clicked on it.
As the page appeared, the very first image that came up, delivered an instant sickening memory, one that will burn in my mind, in my heart forever.
I knew that I would indeed be writing today.
Neither the horrific image, nor the page, will be shown here, if you look around, it is out there.
It is a picture of two young girls in India who, they say, were gang raped and then hung.
Please read that sentence again, will you?
Then try for one moment to remember what year it is, this is 2014.
How is it possible, conceivable, that this kind of abhorrence is still being inflicted on females anywhere?
Yet, it most assuredly is, and in many places apparently.
The word rape is personal to me, a best friend, the best friend of my then young son and two close relatives, were all raped.
Men for the most part, can never truly appreciate the fear that is associated with this evil word.
Unless of course they become incarcerated, then …………
But for us, for women, this is a word that we know all too well.
Some better than others.
Rape, whether we admit it or not, is always in the back of our minds.
Will it happen to me?
For women, the world around us has now become so violent, that simply going to the grocery store, can put any one of us at great risk of becoming the victim of a violent act.
Where we live near Orlando, the violent acts against women and children, have now become an ugly, daily occurrence on our local News.
Women and young girls are beaten, raped, car jacked and murdered here on a regular, horrifying basis.
It seems that we/they are not safe anywhere, anymore, not even at home.
All of this brutality, this violence against women, is happening in a State that still has not passed the ERA, like several other mostly, Southern States.
Does this have any bearing on the outrageous brutality towards women here, maybe.
Although not familiar with the statistics in other states at this time, it has been said repeatedly on our news here, that Florida leads the Nation in violence against women, children and animals.
Sounds like we have a BIG problem here doesn’t it?
But, it is not just here, not just in Florida, not just in America, it is GLOBAL.
The very long list of types of violent acts against women is simply staggering.
And, it has been going on since the beginning of time.
In India, wives died in their husband’s funeral pyres in a practice known as sati.
Young girls are still suffering right now with female genital mutilation.
A shock today was learning that Ethiopia has the highest incidence of violence against women.
But when you consider the absolute, abject poverty there, is it really so surprising after all?
It appears that violence against others is much more prevalent where there is great poverty.
This makes perfect sense in a way.
If a person, assuming the perpetrator of the violent act is a male, is out of work, perhaps for a very long time, desperate and suffering from extreme low self-esteem, any one could then potentially become the target of a violent act.
A wife, a child, a pet could become the victim of violent, out of control, rage.
Regardless of the triggering point, this is absolutely not acceptable behavior under any conditions.
But, back to the point.
We on this Planet have a very serious problem with violence against women.
America has just finally passed, for all of the good it has apparently done, the VAW ACT.
Yet every single day, here and all across this country and the world, women and children become victims, another statistic, while waiting for this VAW ACT, the judicial system that continues to fail them and yes all of us too, to save their lives.
Women go to court trying to get legal protection, in the form of a piece of useless paper, called a restraining order, and are murdered anyway.
So, what is the solution?
Well, if we wait for a legal solution, I truly don’t believe that it can or will, ever be the answer.
The answer I believe, is within ourselves.
We must change our basic nature, we must get to the roots of all humans and their eons old, errant thinking.
We must all, each and every one of us, be taught from birth, from our Mother’s, yes and most importantly from our Father’s knee, that each of us is valuable, each of us is worthy of being loved and each of us is important.
Once we as a species, begin to feel good, or at least not bad, about who and what we are, only then can we truly accept and love each other and stop the violence against women.
Places to learn more:
The Violence Against Women Act
International Violence Against Women Act
Domestic Violence – Legal Protection From Abuse
June 22, 2014 at 1:24 PM
I think I saw that image. I believe I read that the girls committed suicide by hanging. The shame, the culture ….. SMH! India seems to be a place were this is “common” …. SMH!!
June 22, 2014 at 1:37 PM
I did not read that they committed suicide.
Horrific either way.
Thank you as always, for sharing this with your legion of fans!!!!!
June 22, 2014 at 1:38 PM
I know ….. horrific in every way. As well as all the other examples you gave.
Hugs my dear friend!!
June 24, 2014 at 10:51 AM
They did not commit suicide. They were hung by the rapists. But yes, horrible either way.
June 24, 2014 at 10:53 AM
OMG!! Yes, horrible in every way!
June 24, 2014 at 11:11 AM
That is what was said in all of the stories that I saw. Unforgivable, unforgettable evil.
June 22, 2014 at 1:25 PM
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A very sad reality ….. in our world! No violence is justified!!
June 22, 2014 at 1:40 PM
Thank you so much for your support, but then it is to be expected, you are a wonderful Doctor!!!!!
June 22, 2014 at 1:41 PM
TY Donna …. means a lot coming from you!! Hugs
June 22, 2014 at 1:41 PM
Actually, just quoting the man sitting across from me!!!!
June 22, 2014 at 1:43 PM
Will all due respect ….. hug that man for me!! Please ….. My respect is for you both!!
June 22, 2014 at 1:44 PM
It is beyond horrific, I’ve read the articles on this and it seems to be having the effect of making people focus on India and the atrocities there rather than seeing it as part of as you say a GLOBAL problem. Though the term ‘problem’ doesn’t seem strong enough. This is a superb post. Thank you.
June 22, 2014 at 1:47 PM
Am humbled by your kind words.
Was seeing RED this morning, when I saw the hideous picture.
Truly had no choice but to write.
June 22, 2014 at 2:00 PM
I get you entirely. It makes me angry, sad and sick to my stomach x
June 22, 2014 at 2:01 PM
June 22, 2014 at 4:53 PM
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June 22, 2014 at 4:58 PM
Thank you so very much for sharing this!!!!!
Jackie Saulmon Ramirez
June 22, 2014 at 5:09 PM
Rape at 17 changed my life forever. I was probably overprotective of my daughters because I did not want them to have that experience. My grandmother told me once that she was so proud of me, that where ever she saw me I had my girls with me. She never knew one of her sons molested me at the age of about six. Later on, three of my father’s drinking buddies molested me and then one of them raped me in my own bed. My mother did nothing to protect me when I told her what my brother was doing to me. I grew up believing I was worthless and that most girls had no value. I was determined to change that for my girls, yet one was raped in her high school – as protective as I was, it was not enough. Parents need to speak openly with their children about rape and sexual abuse and that they should not tolerate it or commit it. After I was raped I never felt clean or whole again. I steer away from any images or articles about that because – as old as I am – it still hurts. I read yours because I met you yesterday and I trust your gentleness. Trust is never easy. ~Jackie
June 23, 2014 at 6:21 AM
It took great courage for you to write this and share your pain.
Nothing will ever change this, but the more it is expressed the better and easier it gets each time to speak it.
Perhaps you might share this post with your Followers, if you think it could offer any one else another voice, who understands and supports their experience and their pain as well.
Thank you for not only caring and sharing, but most of all for surviving and thriving this horror.
You may never know how many others will benefit from reading this page and your thoughts.
June 24, 2014 at 10:58 AM
Thank you for your words, Jackie. I was “date-raped” in high school. Only recently have I realized that rape is rape — there is no “date murder” or “date assault.” Another piece of validation and healing. I wasn’t taught about these horrible possibilities. Things have changed and yet they haven’t.
June 24, 2014 at 11:05 AM
Thank you so much for sharing this Karen. Others are telling me off line of similar stories of abuse. It is so very important to speak about this out loud to validate it. Too many suffer in silence. Healing usually begins with sharing.
Jackie Saulmon Ramirez
June 24, 2014 at 12:11 PM
You hit the nail on the head, Karen. Things will not change until the shame on the victim is lifted and rape is dealt with efficiently.
June 22, 2014 at 5:26 PM
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June 23, 2014 at 6:40 AM
Thank you so very much for sharing this, so that others may know and understand.
June 24, 2014 at 11:46 AM
Thank you so much for bringing this to our attention, Donna. I agree with you 100%. Laws and legalities are one thing, but the only way to truly make change with this is to begin the change within. Educating people about these atrocities is what is desperately needed. How we ever became so strayed from the path is beyond my reason and understanding. However, thoughts are things, and with a single thought there can from this emit a ripple effect to change and understanding. I am reminded how over time societies can truly change; people may look back and say, for example, we put up with smoking in public places? Really? I can’t imagine it now. Well, this situation with the rape and mutilation of women absolutely must have in its midst the awareness and focus on changing people and thereby changing society and its views. Thank you again, dear Donna, for shedding light on this horrific and mind-boggling set of circumstances. Cher xo
June 24, 2014 at 11:55 AM
Your courage, your voice, hopefully will compel others to also share, to let go, of the enormous pain and often shame, that accompanies horrific physical or emotional abuse.
But this must be done, to begin the healing process.
I am in awe of your strength, thank you for coming here and sharing.
You may never know how many others who have in the past, or are now, suffering in silence, will benefit from your beautiful words.
Thank you so much.
God Bless and keep you safe.
June 24, 2014 at 12:27 PM
I know it does not help to suffer in silence. In my humble opinion that only gives the abusers more power. Truly they have utterly no right whatsoever to use power and manipulation over innocent women and children. There are no words, really, to describe the anger of felt towards the abusers. It is only through awareness that any kind of hope for change will arise. God Bless you, too, dear Donna, and thank you again for providing a voice to this horrific circumstance.
June 24, 2014 at 12:43 PM
This posting was originally written to address a horrific crime, but has now grown into a more or less round table, for those who understand exactly what is happening around the world.
Women are being raped, murdered and abused and not enough is being done to stop it.
Thank you all for speaking out, for refusing to remain silent and for instead choosing a new beginning on the road or path to healing.
The many courageous words written here offer hope for the many others who are suffering right now in silence.